These are the general directions for all assessments.
Assessment Directions: Go through the list of behaviors some abusers/coercive controllers do to hurt their partner or ex-partner with the coercive control tactic they use. Decide, to the best of your recollection, how frequently your partner or ex-partner did any of the following behaviors in your relationship or since it ended? Circle the number that applies to your situation.

1 __never, 2 __hardly ever, 3 __sometimes, 4 __often, 5 __quite often, 6 __not applicable, 7 __prefer not to answer

Hint: You can print out your assessments or use a piece of paper to write your answers down. If you just write your answers down, look for items where you answered 4 or 5. Then, use your Focus Points™ to describe specifically how the abuser used that specific tactic with you. The more you can describe what happened, the easier it is to recognize it in the future and use your Transformational Journaling™ tools to stop the abuser or leave the abusive situation.